domingo, 20 de febrero de 2011

Modesty




I was talking to a lady from my ward, and she asked me if I was writing my experiences as a convert to the church, I said, “Yes, but I feel like a have to write something about each specific principle I have learned”, and she said, “I think you should do that”, so, I am going to share with you the way I felt when I first learned about specific gospel principles. Now that I think about it, this might help you if you are trying to teach somebody these principles.
Modesty: This is the first one that came to my mind because it was the most difficult to exercise, and the last one that I understood fully. As you know, I am from one of the hottest cities in Mexico; the temperature there can go up to 116 degrees in a summer day. Having said that, you can imagine that the kind of clothes that people use there is very light. So, I would only wear sleeves in winter, or if the blouse was extremely cute. I liked to wear miniskirts, and little shorts, I was the opposite of modest (oh, I forgot about the bikinis). I do not even remember when was the first time I heard about modesty, but I remember that it was introduced to me by Mike. He told me that women were supposed to wear sleeves and that whatever they wear in the bottom should at least cover their knees. Did I already mention that I thought he was the weirdest of the weirds? I was kind of offended; I told him that for me that was an unfair way to judge people. I do not remember what he answered, I probably ignored him.
The second time I heard about modesty was in one of the missionary discussions, once again I got offended. I could not understand why people would think I was a bad or a good person based on the sleeves on my blouse. I did not understand the fact that the way you dress tells a lot about yourself and your principles. When Mike told me that boys have bad thoughts about girls that they see dressed immodestly my answer was: “That is their problem, not mine”. Poor Mike, he tried so many times to make me understand that I was not being judged that I just stopped talking to him about it. I decided to charge against the poor missionaries, who are always very polite, I asked them if they would consider me as not worthy of the blessings of the church because of the way I dressed. I was mad; I told them that I was sure God loved me no matter what I was wearing. They said, “Yes, he does”, and then they asked me. “But, would you feel comfortable wearing immodest clothes in the presence of god?” They got me on that one.
At that time, I was working in Zara, which is a very prestigious Spanish clothing store (Crystal knows what I am talking about). As the second manager, I was entitled to a full wardrobe every season. I worked there for four years, so I had a lot of clothes, immodest clothes. How could I get rid of my clothes? I know this might sound so superficial, but at that time that was a big deal.
The time came when I decided to get baptized, I realize that I was completely okay with everything about the church, I knew it was true. Even though I did not understand the modesty issue completely, I decided to be obedient and started dressing according to the church teachings. After a couple of months I was reading something about the prophets and I felt the confidence that what they were saying was true. Prophets speak the word of God. Therefore, how could I question the modesty principle when I know they are right? How could I believe one thing and denied the other when both come from the same source?
I know that if you are obedient, the lord will bless you with knowledge and assurance. I still struggle when I have to buy clothes just because I am still attracted to the things I cannot wear. I am still learning and I am not perfect. I am trying to be obedient and I know that my testimony will grow as I keep the promise I have made to the lord.

4 comentarios:

  1. This was a great discussion. I loved seeing pictures of you in the examples. But I have to say, the first picture in the white dress is my favorite. You look like a beautiful princess in that one and it speaks loudly of what is inside of you as well as what is outside.

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  2. One of the reasons that we dress modestly is to not offend the spirit. We want to have the spirit with us at all times. If we are walking around as Elder Oaks said as walking pornography the spirit can not be our spirit and other my lose the spirit by the things they are thinking. I am so happy that you trust the Lord. He will bless you with the understanding and the ability to help others to understand why it is important. Now people around you are attracted to the great spirit you have not a cheap thrill.

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  3. Thank you for sharing that. It is interesting to hear your perspective on it. It is difficult to be modest at times, especially in the summer when youa re dying of heat and some of those tank tops are so cute. I also had no idea how much immodesty affected men until I married Jake and heard him talk about it. I now realize that I don't want to wear those types of clothing because i don't want men looking at me that way. Like I am a piece of meat or something. I want to be respected as a woman. I am jealous that you worked at Zara. That would be hard throwing away their clothes cause they have awesome clothes but I am so proud of you for doing it. You are a great example to me.

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  4. In college I had to wear track uniforms that weren't always modest. Even at practice we were required to wear the "appropriate" yet immodest clothing. I got use to wearing that clothing durning workout and I liked it. I noticed that the guys that were attracked to me were not guys I wanted around.
    Even though I didn't dress immodestly most of the time, I had a really had time when I started wearing garments. I think modesty is something you learn to appreciate as your testimony grows and also when you are married you learn more about what guys really think, that helps a lot.

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